Memories of the 1963 March on Washington

Photo credit: National Archives

I pretended not to notice my mother at the water’s edge calling me to come ashore. During supper I had begged her to take us to the beach before sundown. I ducked under the waves and headed one last time for the sandbar. When I came up for air, I changed my mind and headed for shore. Everett McNair was talking with my mother, gesturing emphatically about something I knew I didn’t want to miss.

Whenever Everett McNair appeared on the beach, I found some excuse to be nearby. Like my father, he told captivating stories about things that mattered. Everett and his wife, Irene, had a cottage up the hill from ours and they came every summer from Alabama where he worked as chaplain of Talladega College. My father had told me that Talladega was one of the oldest historically Black colleges and that Everett, as a white man, considered it a great privilege to serve as chaplain.

Everett was a tall man in his mid-sixties. He seemed immeasurably old to me, as a fourteen-year-old, but his seniority only enhanced the prophetic powers I attributed to him. He had witnessed tumultuous upheaval in the South as the fortress of segregation was crumbling, and he had been one of the subversive agents working for that change.  

As I grabbed a towel and threw it over my wet shoulders, I heard my mother complaining that my father had left for home in East Lansing to write his sermon and attend a Trustee’s meeting.

“I don’t know why Truman can’t take one or two Sundays off in the summer,” Mother said.

“I can relate to that behavior,” Everett said, shaking his head and laughing. “I’ve been a workaholic much of my life. One of the advantages of coming all the way from Alabama each summer is that I have no choice but to turn things over to others while we’re gone.”

Turning to me, Everett asked, “When do you go back to school?” 

“I start high school next Tuesday,” I replied, hoping my voice didn’t betray my considerable anxiety about going to a new building full of students older than me. 

“Do you think the three of us would have time to take a trip before you start school?” Everett dug his foot in the sand and kicked it in my direction.

I looked at my mother, wondering if they’d been talking about a trip. She hunched her shoulders.

“Tomorrow morning,” Everett said, “tens of thousands of people will be converging on Washington DC for the largest civil rights march in this nation’s history. What are we doing here on this beach in Michigan? We should be on our way to Washington.”

“How in the world would we do that, Everett?” Mother asked.

“I’ve talked with Irene and she’s more than happy to have Wendy and Stephanie stay with her at our cabin.  It’s only 8:00 right now. If we head out by ten, we can make it to DC by the time the march starts.”

Mother turned to me, “What do you say, Melanie, should we do it?”

“Yes!” I shouted, thrilled to be included.  

“Okay then,” she declared. “Give me a couple hours, Everett, so I can pack and get things around for us and the girls.”

It was close to midnight before we got on the road.  Everett wouldn’t accept my mother’s offer to take our car. He insisted there’d be more room in his Impala to stretch out on the back seat to sleep. When Everett was driving, Mother frequently asked if he was having difficulty seeing the road or staying awake. It was unusual for her to relinquish the wheel and I knew she was anxious about how fast we were going. Everett seemed oblivious to it all and our Impala sailed over the Pennsylvania mountains through the night toward Washington, D.C. I rode shotgun most of the way, far more interested in hearing Everett’s stories than wasting time sleeping.

“My Dad told me that you were arrested last year at a sit-in. What was that like?”

 “Well, we didn’t experience the kind of violence they suffered at the Woolworth’s counter in Greensboro, North Carolina. We didn’t have hot coffee poured on our heads or lit cigarette butts burned into our arms.”

“That’s what happened in Greensboro?” I asked, horrified, trying to imagine how I’d ever summon the courage to continue sitting at a lunch counter while being burned and scalded.

“Those students in Greensboro got badly beaten up. They sure did.” Everett reached for his mug of coffee and apologized for having nothing to offer me. I assured him all I needed was his story.

“Well, we’d certainly been spat upon often enough in demonstrations, so we feared the worst. The police were waiting for us when we arrived at the drugstore. They moved in…we went limp…they had to drag us to the paddy wagons. My head hit the pavement a few times as they dragged me but none of us was seriously injured. We decided to refuse bail and stay in jail.”

“Weren’t you afraid?” I asked.

“Oh yes. But we had each other to lean on. We prayed and sang together. We filled that jail with songs! Singing and praying kept our spirits high and pulled us through.”

Everett started humming. Then, right there in the car next to me, he sang out,
Ain’t gonna let segregation turn me round,
turn me round, turn me round.
Ain’t gonna let segregation turn me round,
I’m gonna keep on walkin’, keep on talkin’,
marching up to freedom’s land.

“Did you return to the lunch counters when you got out of jail?” Mother asked, sliding to the edge of the backseat so she could be part of the conversation.

“City officials imposed an injunction barring any form of demonstration in the city. We were pretty demoralized at first, but lo and behold, within a couple months, the public library opened its doors for the first time to Negroes and the merchants agreed to integrate their lunch counters.”

“That is so cool!” I shouted. “You won!”

Everett laughed and patted my arm. “Well, in a way we won, Melanie. But there is so much work yet to be done.”

“I know,” I said, gravely, regretting that I wasn’t old enough to be involved in sit-ins.

Staring at the taillights of the car ahead of us, I imagined my body going limp and my head hitting cement as I was dragged toward a paddy wagon with sirens blaring and lights flashing.

We were thirty miles from Washington, D.C., when the traffic began to slow to a crawl. Fortunately, we’d stopped for a pre-dawn breakfast, wanting to give ourselves plenty of time to make it to the Washington Monument Mall by the 10:00 a.m. starting time. By 8:30 a.m., traffic was excruciatingly sluggish. At 10:00, we were at a complete standstill at least one-half mile from the Mall.

“What are we going to do now?” I moaned. Panic flooded me. Had we come all this way to be stuck in a traffic jam? 

“The only thing we can do,” said Everett grinning at me and pointing out the window. “We’re going to leave the car right here by the curb and walk…no, run with all those people headed to the Washington Monument.”

“Just leave the car?” My mother asked with alarm.

“Yes.” Everett opened his door and motioned for us to follow. “I see no other option.”

My mother took my hand, and we took off running with Everett leading the way. When we joined the throngs near the Monument, a volunteer handed us signs (“We Are Marching for Jobs and Freedom”) and motioned for us to veer to the left. Everett took my other hand and we fell into line, moving with the swelling crowds of people clapping, chanting, and singing. Volunteers in bright colored t-shirts directed us to a wide passageway between two rows of towering trees running parallel to the reflecting pool.

When we finally came to a stop we were on the other side of the trees, in the bright August sun, not far from the edge of the road directly in front of the Lincoln Memorial. Turning around I saw thousands of people standing shoulder to shoulder for what seemed like miles, stretching all the way back to the Washington Monument and lining both sides of the massive reflecting pool.

Huge platforms for the speakers, singers, and camera crews had been constructed halfway up the steps of the Lincoln Memorial. Just as Everett had experienced during his time in jail, music wrapped around us and filled the air that afternoon. I sang full-throated and swayed to songs led by Harry Bellefonte, Bob Dylan, Joan Baez, and Peter, Paul, and Mary.  My parents often played albums by Odetta, so I clapped and threw my arms in the air when she stepped to the microphone and her deep voice rang out: If they ask you who you are, tell them you're a child of God." When Mahalia Jackson sang, I closed my eyes and let the music wash over me as the exquisite harmonies of people around me rose and fell. I’ve been ‘buked and I’ve been scorned, I’ve been talked ‘bout sure as you’re born.

Many of the speakers were unknown to me, but I recognized the name Norman Thomas when he was introduced. My father often spoke of his respect and admiration for Norman Thomas, who left the ministry to engage in full-time activism as a Socialist, pacifist crusader for racial justice. I was thrilled to see Jackie Robinson in person and hear him declare, “We cannot be turned back.”

I knew we were standing in a choice location, but as the day wore on, I felt envy for people who were sitting at the edge of the reflecting pool, splashing water on their faces, arms, and legs. We hadn’t thought to bring lawn chairs so we had to stand or sit on a small patch of grass.

By midday the high August sun was scorching and the humidity thick. People were milling and fanning themselves while speaker after speaker came to the microphone. Volunteers came through the crowd periodically asking us to move back so that ambulances could reach people fainting from the heat.

Suddenly, people rose to their feet and pointed at the stage. “It’s him. It’s him!” The milling and talking ceased.  A hush fell over that great assembly. No one moved. I could swear that even the babies stopped crying as Dr. King began to speak.

Five score years ago, a great American, in whose symbolic shadow we stand today, signed the Emancipation Proclamation…”

Children were hoisted onto their parents’ shoulders. People leaned into each other, clasping hands, locking arms.

This momentous decree came as a great beacon light of hope to millions of Negro slaves who had been seared in the flames of withering injustice…

Dr. King’s lilting cadence rose and fell across the reflecting pool and ricocheted off distance buildings. Black elders on every side of me raised their palms toward the heavens.

“Yes. Yes.”

It came as a joyous daybreak to end the long night of their captivity…

“That’s right, now.”

But one hundred years later, the Negro still is not free.

“Speak the truth, speak the truth.”

Dr. King declared that the Constitution was a “promissory note” guaranteeing all citizens the unalienable rights of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

“It is obvious today that America has defaulted on this promissory note insofar as her citizens of color are concerned.”

The crowd roared, “Yes, it has. Yes, it has.”

Dr. King pledged to carry the struggle forward until justice reigns and the dream is fulfilled. The crowd responded rhythmically, echoing words and phrases, calling out to him to take his time and preach the dream.

I listened intently to his words but I wasn’t watching the speaker’s stand. I was captivated, enthralled by the people in front, in back, and on all sides of me. Young and old, weeping and laughing, embracing each other, raising their arms and fists high, their faces turned to the sky.

“When we allow freedom to ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God's children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual, ‘Free at last! Free at last! Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!’"

At the conclusion of Dr. King’s speech, Bayard Rustin and A. Phillip Randolph challenged us all to take a pledge, promising we would carry the message of this revolution back to our communities. I felt ready and eager. People reached out to join hands. I stood between my mother and a young Black man with a son perched on his shoulders. I held their hands tight as A. Phillip Randolph read the pledge slowly, emphasizing each and every word of this solemn vow.

I pledge to carry the message of the March to my friends and neighbors back home and arouse them to an equal commitment and equal effort… I will work to make sure that my voice and those of my brothers [and sisters] ring clear and determined from every corner of our land. I pledge my heart and my mind and my body unequivocally and without regard to personal sacrifice, to the achievement of social peace through social justice.

“How do you pledge?” asked Bayard Rustin.

With that mighty throng of 250,000, I threw my head back and shouted, “I do pledge..”    

Lessons I Re-learned This Past Week

These words were written as the introduction to a racial justice workshop that I co-facilitated with my Allies for Change colleagues, Dionardo Pizaña and Dessa Cosma, on January 12, 2021.

We are gathered on the twelfth day of a new year.

We are gathered in the eleventh month of a world-wide pandemic that has rocked our nation and changed our lives. None of us has been exempt from the impact of this pandemic, but the impact has been particularly virulent for people with disabilities and for Black, Brown, and Indigenous communities. This COVID-19 crisis has laid bare the gaping inequities that people of color and people with disabilities have faced for far too long.

We are gathered three days before the national holiday that honors the life and work of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

We are gathered seven days after an historic milestone when voters in the state of Georgia elected their first Black Senator and first Jewish Senator, Raphael Warnock and Jon Ossoff.

We are gathered six days after hundreds of self-proclaimed white supremacists and white nationalists carried out a terrorist attack on our nation’s Capital, smashing windows, ransacking offices, threatening to kill senators and representatives, and seeking to overturn the lawful certification of the new and duly elected president.

Three days ago, Annaliese Bruner, an African American writer and editor based in Washington DC, published an article entitled, “My Grandmother Survived the Tulsa Massacre. 100 Years Later, I Watched a Mostly White Mob Attack My City.” In May 1921, violent mobs of white terrorists destroyed the Greenwood section of Tulsa, transforming a prosperous African American community into a smoldering pile of rubble and killing as many as three hundred Black residents.

There are lessons I have re-learned during this second week of 2021.

If I, a White person, claim to be deeply concerned about systemic racism, I must grapple with the fact that since the birth of this nation, and long before its formal birth in the 1776, there has been not one era or generation when Black Americans could trust that they would be accorded the same safety, freedom of mobility, and access to housing, healthcare, employment and unencumbered voting that white enjoy. Not one generation or era when their communities were not subjected to the threat of, or enactment of, white violence and discrimination that most often goes unpunished.

I must grapple with that fact, not by turning inward and being swallowed up in guilt, self-loathing, or despair, but by redoubling and deepening my commitment to use my voice, my time, my vocational agency, and my monetary resources to confront and dismantle racism at the personal, interpersonal, cultural, and institutional levels.

I need to listen to and learn from Black, Brown, and Indigenous leaders in this struggle who know, from experience, that freedom and racial equity are a constant struggle and a very long road. They know that we need to have a long view in this work as well as short-term goals. And because it is such a long road, we need to develop and nurture truth-telling relationships and communities of support and accountability where we help each other become “long-distance runners for justice.”*

That is why we are gathered here on this twelfth day of 2021. To dive deep and come up stronger for the life-long work of racial justice.

* I am indebted to Ruby Sales for introducing me to the term “long-distance runners for justice.” Ruby Sales is an African American social justice activist, scholar, public theologian, and the founder & director of the Spirit House Project.

 

 

COVID Nightmare

Last night I dreamed I had organized a large gathering. It was a reunion of sorts at a retreat space that resembled the land and buildings at the Leaven Center. It was a beautiful spring day. Not a cloud in the sky.  As people started arriving, I was delighted by the diversity of people who were streaming onto the land from different towns and cities across the country.

I spotted a woman whom I hadn’t seen in decades. We ran toward each other on the long gravel driveway and I threw my arms around her, holding her close, saying her name over and over again. Then, in a flash I remembered. I stepped back aghast at what I’d done.

 “Forgive me, please forgive me,” I pleaded, stepping away from her. I glanced around. Some people were sitting at picnic tables, leaning in to hear each other. Others gathered in small groups, hugging and laughing. I took off running across the lawn toward each table and group, shouting as I got nearer but standing several yards away from each.

“You aren’t keeping a safe distance,” I yelled. “Please, move away from each other. We’re acting like we’re exempt from danger. We aren’t. Please move away from each other.”

Some people looked up or turned toward me, stared quizzically for a few seconds, and then returned to the intimacy of their reconnection with precious friends they hadn’t seen in years.

The dream jolted me awake. As I was coming to, I felt a mixture of panic and guilt for having organized this large-scale reunion. I woke April and told her I’d had a nightmare just moments ago. I wanted to tell her what I could remember while fragments of the dream were still vivid and accessible. But when I began describing how I ran toward my friend on the long gravel driveway, I started sobbing. I could only sputter a few more words, “I couldn’t help it, I reached out to hug her…”

April held me while I cried.

“I know, I know,” she said. “In other sad and dangerous times -- like 9/11 and the 2016 election -- we’ve always gathered people together to grieve and hold up hope to one another. This is so hard.”

 “Yes,” I said, “so hard.”

 

 

 

This Beautiful, Resilient Land

This Beautiful, Resilient Land

Turning onto Peckins Road, about a mile from our house, April gasped.

“Look at the trees. Every single one has been butchered!”

I switched on the high beams. Stripped of their summer leaves, branches hung at grotesque angles like splintered limbs not fully amputated. Every cedar, maple, sycamore, and oak stood mangled and scarred.

“What happened?” I shouted. “When we left home three hours ago, everything was fine. It looks like a monster has rampaged through here.”

The World Split Open

Brett Kavanaugh was the embodiment of white patriarchal entitlement when he appeared before the Senate Judiciary Committee this afternoon. He clearly believes that he should be exempt from challenge and above reproach. He adamantly refused to answer questions, insisting that he had earned every privilege he has been granted and shouting that graduation from Yale Law School makes him exempt from interrogation.

Kavanaugh’s rage, tears, and persistent whining were actually a sign that the old order is crumbling. These white men are afraid. Lindsey Graham’s volcanic meltdown was a testimony to his terror that a new day is dawning.

I kept thinking about Muriel Rukeyser’s prophetic words: “What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life? The world would split open.”

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Trayvon Martin, the Legacy of Lynching, and the Role of White Women

Trayvon Martin, the Legacy of Lynching, and the Role of White Women

I had returned to the Lillian E. Smith Center for the Arts in the mountains of North Georgia for three weeks of solitude in July 2013. … When I reserved my cabin at the Lillian Smith Center, I had no way of knowing that my stay there would coincide with the final days of the George Zimmerman trial. I had come to Georgia to read and write about the ideology that undergirded lynching, how it continues to infect white Americans, and why we must make this history visible. To my horror, every headline and news report about the trial confirmed the urgent need for this work because the politics, patterns, and policies of lynching were brazenly reproduced in that Sanford, Florida courtroom.

Pilgrimage to Old Screamer Mountain

Pilgrimage to Old Screamer Mountain

This morning, I am heading to the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains for a two-week writing retreat at a place I discovered quite by accident in 2011. I’d been searching online for an affordable writing residency when I stumbled upon the Lillian E. Smith Center in Clayton, Georgia. To find a place of solitude and beauty in the mountains of north Georgia was itself a source of great joy; to be on the very mountain where Lillian Smith wrote Strange Fruit (1944) and Killers of the Dream (1949) was more than I could have imagined.

Building inclusive communities

Building inclusive communities

Twenty-eight years ago, when I was wrestling mightily with vocational decisions, I had the privilege of hearing the late poet, essayist, and activist Audre Lorde speak. She introduced herself that night by saying: "I am a black, feminist, socialist, lesbian, mother, poet, doing my work. Who are you? And are you doing your work?” I could have sworn she looked right at me when she asked those questions, but my hunch is that everyone in that auditorium would have said she looked at them.

On this 30th anniversary of Leaven's founding

On this 30th anniversary of Leaven's founding

Thirty years ago, on October 23, 1987, Eleanor Morrison and I filed incorporation papers for LEAVEN, a non-profit organization dedicated to providing resources, education, and training in the areas of feminism, anti-racism, spiritual development, and sexual justice. We chose the name “Leaven” to express our commitment to providing support and nurture for those who seek to be leavening agents for change – resisting oppression, engendering hope. Our organizational motto exclaimed: “If we would be as leaven, there could be an uprising of hope.”

After Charlottesville

My Facebook feed and my own posts are full of outrage at what occurred in Charlottesville and how Trump has revealed himself to be an apologist and enabler of white terrorism. In the wake of Charlottesville, many of my white friends are calling on white people to declare where we stand in relation to white supremacy; to decide which side of history we are on.

I believe that our declarations are important, even essential. But I don’t believe they are enough.